Monday, June 22, 2015

How to Forgive - Meditation and Visualization Technique

Brown Bag by Jeffrey Beall

By Raven Gypsy

Forgiveness is a topic that comes up often.  But people often don't understand what it really means.  Forgiving someone is not about telling the person who wronged you that what they did is ok.  They wronged you, that's not ok.

Often we physically remove the problem person from our lives, but find that even years later the thought of them and what they did to us continues to haunt us.  It effects how we behave toward other people; how we expect others to behave toward us. It changes the way we think and it upsets us just to think about it. What more can we do to heal a hurt after the person hurting us can't hurt us anymore?  Forgive.

Forgiveness is the process of releasing your feelings about a person or situation.  Forgiveness is not excusing or condoning an act.  Forgiveness means to give up, release, let go of.

Forgiveness is a process that involves you and only you and here is one way to do it.

Close your eyes and see yourself.  Think of the thing they did to hurt you as a paper bag full of dog-doo that you are holding.  See yourself holding the bag as you go about your daily activities.  Everywhere you go, "Tra-La-La, I'm going to the grocery store with a bag of crap, Tra-La-Yuck!"  You don't want to carry this bag of crap anymore.

Visualize yourself, your bag of crap and the other person.  See yourself giving the bag back to the person.  Hear yourself say to the person, "You gave me 'x'.  I don't want it.  It's not mine. I'm giving it back. I am fine."

Here are a few examples:
Someone called you fat. So hand back the bag (in your head! not in real life!) and say (in your head) "You think I'm fat. I like my body just the way it is. That is your opinion.  It is not my opinion of myself."

Your ex spent years spending all your money and causing financial problems. Forgive them. "You have financial problems. I have a job. I pay my bills. I am financially stable.  That was your problem, not mine and I'm giving it back."

Your ex called you overly emotional, needy, always dismissed your feelings. Forgive them. "You do not value my emotions or think they are real. My emotions are my own. I feel them. It doesn't matter if you like them or not.  They are mine. They are real. And it is ok to feel them."

Do not continue to carry around baggage that is not yours. Forgive and move on. 
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Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Litha Lore (June 21)

Photo By: jason Jenkins

By Raven Gypsy
Alban Heruin also known as Litha is celebrated on June 21.

Although the name Litha is not well attested, it may come from Saxon tradition – the opposite of Yule. On this longest day of the year, light and life are abundant. At mid-summer, the Sun God has reached the moment of his greatest strength. Seated on his greenwood throne, he is also lord of the forests, and his face is seen in church architecture peering from countless foliate masks.
The Christian religion converted this day of Jack-in-the-Green to the Feast of St. John the Baptist, often portraying him in rustic attire, sometimes with horns and cloven feet (like the Greek Demi-God Pan)

Midsummer Night’s Eve is also special for adherents of the Faerie faith. The alternative fixed calendar date of June 25 (Old Litha) is sometimes employed by Covens. The name Beltane is sometimes incorrectly assigned to this holiday by some modern traditions of Wicca, even though Beltane is the Gaelic word for May and typically celebrated on May 1.

Traditional Foods: Garden fresh fruits and vegetables are made into a variety of dishes and eaten by Pagan’s who choose to celebrate this day.

Herbs and Flowers: Mugwort, Vervain, Chamomile, Rose, Honeysuckle, Lily Oak, Lavender, Ivy, Yarrow, Fern, Elder, Wild Thyme, Daisy, Carnation.

Incense: Lemon, Myrrh, Pine, Rose, Wisteria

Woods Burned: Oak

Sacred Gemstone: Emerald

Special Activities: An Ideal time to reaffirm your vows to the Lord and Lady or your dedication to following the old traditions.
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